Evaluating if the Fear is Valid

This process will look different for everyone, but at the core it is all about self reflection. Stepping away from the situation, whether in the moment or later, and asking yourself ‘what was I afraid of?’

Your mind might take you on a journey through insignificant details first, but eventually you will dive deeply enough to find the reason you were truly afraid. And from that point, you will need to decide how the thing you were afraid of at the moment is going to decide your next step.

There are so many possibilities from this point I could never write them all down, but I will give a few examples:

• Reason for fear – that person acted in a similar way to an unhealthy person from my past, my fear was of both that past person and the feelings they caused.
• Decision – now that I am aware of this, it may be time to gain some distance so I don’t fall back into unhealthy patterns.

• Reason for fear – I was unsure how that person would react to what I planned to tell them, the unknown outcome was causing fear.
• Decision – how important is what I have to say to this person, is it going to help my growth? If it is then I may need to say it anyway and trust myself to be able to cope with any outcome.

• Reason for fear – my planned actions had the potential to cause judgement from the people around me, my fear was of social embarrassment.
• Decision – this action is an important part of my self growth, if I let others define my future I will never be able to create the life of my dreams.

Facing these Fears

After evaluating whether these fears are valid, and if you decide that they are not. It is time to feel the fear and do the thing anyway!

In our journey of growth and improvement, we are going to face many obstacles and situations that are new to us, and therefore uncomfortable in some way. But if they are important to us, and our inner wisdom is telling us that this is the best path forward. Then it is definitely time to move through the fear and towards your dreams.

With each new thing that we do, we prove to ourselves that we are capable of more than we ever thought. And with each new thing we do, we grow more and more confident in our ability to continue moving forward into our limitless self.

My own story is an example of this, as I moved from afraid to order a coffee and needing 5 minutes just to prepare myself, to being able to walk into almost any social situation with confidence in my abilities. And when something new does come up, with some fear alongside it, I know that by moving forward and facing the fear, I will feel even more confident and accomplished than I did the day before.

Conclusion

Fear is so important, it definitely plays an important role in all of our lives, but when it steps out of that role and prevents you from moving forward into the dream life you are creating, it is time to begin pushing through it and facing your fears. Give yourself the credit that you deserve, you are so much more capable than you could ever imagine!